Brown skin girl
Your skin just like pearls
The best thing in the world
Never trade you for anybody else
Singin’ brown skin girl
Your skin just like pearls
The best thing in the world
I never trade you for anybody else, singin’…

This song has been on repeat in my home since Beyoncé dropped her album for The Lion King. Hearing the lyrics drives me to tears and makes me happy all at once. Watching my daughter, Bobbi Elle dance around the house while belting the lyrics of the song, brings me joy. The other day I asked her if she knew what the song meant.  “Yes mommy…it means my brown skin is beautiful.”

At 2 years and 3 years old, Bobbi would come home asking for her hair to be straight and long like her pre-school friends. She would ask why she couldn’t be “vanilla.” She would play with her white Barbies and call her black dolls “dirty.” Crazy part is…I used to hear other moms talk about this – but never expected to hear those words from my own child…and at such a young age.

I knew that she was in a pre-school where she was one of one. While she developed the best relationships and friendships that she still has til this day – it clearly affected her to not see other girls like her. She just wanted to be…what she saw.

By the time she was 4 years old, I knew we needed to balance out what she was seeing on a daily basis…and since she loved to dance – I found an African-American ballet studio near where we lived, Be Dance Studios.   I took her by to get her registered – and she looked at the roster of girls and said…“wow…they’re all chocolate.”

Her first few weeks into the program…I would watch her watch the other girls getting ready for ballet class…in awe. Her face told me that this was something new and she was intrigued by it all. I’ll never forget her looking at the girls – all different shades of chocolate…in amazement. It was a pretty telling moment for me.  And I knew we had made the right move.

In her first few weeks in kindergarten – she came home with a school project where she had to write her bio…”About Me.” Her dad had been doing morning affirmations telling her to repeat…“I am smart…My skin is beautiful….I am Kind…I am Special.” So it was only right when she had to fill out “I am special because….” She wrote…

“My skin.”

When I read that…I was so happy…and then I cringed.

This “About Me” bio was going to be put up in the walls of the classroom in time for Back to School Night. What would the other parents think? If I read a white child’s bio that stated they were special because of their skin…I would feel a certain kind of way and that child AND parent would get the side eye from me.

I started to erase her answer that I helped her write…and then…I stopped myself.

I thought about all the times she came home wishing she was “vanilla.” Asking why her hair could not be long and straight like her friends. I thought of the times she called her black dolls dirty.

And I pushed her bio away…looked at her and said…”what do you mean you’re special because of your skin?”

“Because my skin is brown…and its beautiful.”

That was all I needed to hear.

All I could say was “I love that answer, Bobbi” and watched her color in that section of her box…brown.

Everything we said and did in the past year to help her embrace her skin color, her hair and who she was – had kicked in.  And I was not about to unravel that.  She had pride…She was confident.  And she had no shame owning it.  And so should I. We fought too hard and too long to be in 2019 fearful or worried about how others will view of us…for loving ourselves…and loving the skin we are in.  And if we’re honest – we’re still fighting.  But that’s another blog post for another day.

Bobbi Elle: Brown skin girl..Black Girl Magic..One Balanced Mama blog

Black Girl Magic Photo Shoot

When Bobbi turned 6….as its our tradion…it was time to do our annual birthday photo shoot. I wanted it to be something that celebrated her and who she was at that moment in time…Black Girl Magic….A Warrior Princess. The Bantu Knots was her idea. She went from wanting “vanilla” to all black everything! I called my friend and hairdresser, Jade Davis…and she went to work. Between Jade and Toni Lowe who styled her and Erica Melissa behind the lens…we captured who she is….BLACK GIRL MAGIC…






















This is a very late post…like 8 months late…crazy how this year is almost over and I’m sharing photos from a February shoot…but this is too good to let it go by any longer…When Bobbi turned 4 – she was all into her Disney princesses!  She wanted a princess party, a princess themed bedroom, all of the princess dresses – you see where I’m going here.  So it just made sense that for her 4th birthday shoot – we captured the love of her princesses and fairy tales.  Speaking of that princess party…man…she got more like a Royal Celebration!

Linking up with Erica Melissa for another photo session – I knew we were going to capture some beauties…we shot her in her element reading books and being in front of the mirror…as well as being in some of her favorite princess dresses.

Here are some of my faves!

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Bobbi has a rack of princess dresses…and like every little girl..playing dress up is one of her fave past times. I found this cute clothing rack on Amazon!
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Because every sweet princess has a silly side!
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Brave, courageous, free-spirited and adventurous…all describe Princess Merida + Princess Bobbi




Bobbi Elle turned 3!!! And it was time for another photo shoot.  Shooting photos of a toddler is NO easy feat – but this year – we hit the jackpot!!  I’m not sure if its because she’s getting older or she’s used to having a camera in her face.  Either way – Miss Bobbi was on point and ready for her big day.  She allowed us to go thru 5 different looks (styled by Toni Lowes) and we got thru it all in about an hour and a half.  Thanks to the amazing eye of one of my fave photographers – Erica Rodriquez – there were a ton of awesome shots – and I had the tough job of narrowing it down to these:

1st Look:  A Lady and her Crown

Bobbi Elle "Queen Bee" 3rd birthday Photo Shoot

Bobbi Elle "Queen Bee" 3rd birthday Photo Shoot

Bobbi Elle "Queen Bee" 3rd birthday Photo Shoot

Bobbi Elle: The lady and her crown birthday photo shoot; toddler shoot

Bobbi Elle "Queen Bee" 3rd birthday Photo Shoot

Bobbi Elle "Queen Bee" 3rd birthday Photo Shoot

Bobbi Elle "Queen Bee" 3rd birthday Photo Shoot

Bobbi Elle "Queen Bee" 3rd birthday Photo Shoot


Bobbi Elle is turning TWO!!!!  And for her birthday this year – I decided to hire a photographer to do a photo shoot, capturing her personality and her funny ways.  We attempted to do a smash cake photo shoot when she turned one – and it was a disaster.  After an hour – this was the best shot we got!

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Mainly because my husband was the one to shoot it – and to her – Daddy is Daddy, not the photographer…which makes it hard.  So we decided to go a different route for the second go round and we got amazing results.  Once again Erica Rodriquez of Mau Loa Photography nailed the shoot.  We decided to shoot her at Main Street in Miami Lakes – going with a rocker chic look…here’s a few of my fave shots:

2nd birthday photo shoot


2nd girl birthday shoot; Bobbi Elle

2nd girl birthday shoot; Bobbi Elle

2nd girl birthday shoot; Bobbi Elle

2nd girl birthday shoot; Bobbi Elle

2nd girl birthday shoot; Bobbi Elle