Its been four years since Bobby and I hung out randomly one night…me barging in on his plans that he was making with my assistant (one of his boys-Nile) to hang out at a local lounge/restaurant….it was the week before a major fundraising event that I managed for the Overtown Youth Center and I was stressed and needed to get out….

Overhearing them make plans for what sounded like a “boy’s night out” – I not only inserted myself into the plans, I also requested that he come pick me up because I wouldn’t feel like driving…he obliged.  We barely knew each other, but I figured that Nile was going to be there so I would be okay.

I knew Bobby was a cool guy from seeing him around the center working with the kids…what I didn’t know was that night would change my life forever….

Four years later – its 2:45AM and I look over lovingly at my husband thinking – how funny life is….I waited so long for my prince charming and little did I know that he would come in the form of Bob Metelus.  That night, on March 7, 2008 – I thought he was coming to pick me up to hang out for the night – what we didn’t realize was that we were just taking that first step in our journey together as soul mates and partners – for life.

Four years later – its 3:30AM and I look over at my husband….listening to the melodic sounds of his snores…some high pitches..some low…some breathy…some deep.  I’m annoyed. I want to sleep.  And I finally give in and with a firm/gentle shake/slap – I ask him with a sweet yet strong tone – to turn over (the snores that stem from sleeping on the back are generally the loudest). As he deliriously turns over, mumbling words to himself – I think to myself…this is life…this is love…this is marriage.  And I love me some him….

This is us on New Year’s Eve 2011 going into 2012…happy happy joy joy…You’ll be hearing so much more more…of The Mets!



Every now and then (very rarely) – I find myself with a day off….that means nothing on the calendar – no meeting appointments, no conf calls, no traveling..just a big block of empty space on my schedule.  Those days usually come at a time when I least expect it – because I’m too busy dealing with day-to-day issues and work loads – that I wouldn’t notice a free day coming until it actually arrived…its that one Saturday morning when I wake up – check my blackberry and realize – I have NOTHING to do…. nowhere to go – and no one I have to see…And then – panic sets in.

I know…you’ve been there too…

Thankfully, those days of going into panic mode are slowly fading away.  There was a time where I would get myself worked up for hours, only to find the day flew by and I spent most of it anxiously wondering if I was forgetting to do something…OR I would literally feel GUILTY for having time to myself.  Imagine that…

Those times are NO MORE!!!  Over the years, I’ve come to realize that when I have a day with nothing to do – that’s exactly what I chose to do – nothing!  There is always some thing that can fill our time or there are errands we can run….our lives is a continual to-do-list.  But the moments when we aren’t on deadline or don’t have the pressures of projects or must-attend meetings or being away on travel – we should welcome those down times and use them to (in the words of my girl Whitley from A Different World) – RELAX…RELATE….RELEASE!  And that can mean different things to different people.

For me – it usually means laying in bed all day – flipping thru channels or clearing out space on my DVR.  Occasionally I may pick up a book or try to get thru some of my magazine piles…that’s pretty much it. When I’m really feeling jazzy – I may decide to use that time to try out new recipes since I love to cook…but then again, if that requires me cleaning the kitchen – I may just pass that up and place an order for pizza delivery for the night.

We operate in a society where the green light is always on…its always GO with a rare chance to STOP.  As I’ve gotten older – I have become more and more accepting of the idea…The whole – relaxing, relating and releasing idea.  I refuse to allow myself to be worked up into a frenzy because I suddenly have time on my hands.  As a matter of fact – I start looking for those days and pin pointing those moments so I can look forward to do absolutely nothing.  I have come to accept that I am not just WASTING time – I am ENJOYING time – to myself and for myself.

Back in ’91 when I was in high school – I remember seeing the episode with the memorable “relax, relate, release” line….it stuck with me for the past 20 years…so the next time you find yourself in a need to work out of that frenzy – click on the link below and around the 1:59 mark – you can chant along with Whitley + Debbie Allen…RELAX, RELATE, RELEASEEEEE!



So I’ve decided that I have A LOT to say – and feel the need to write it out for all to read…

On a recent call with a girlfriend/mentor of mine – in my moment of despair and feeling of overwhelming-ness…I blurted out “I think i wanna start a blog….I got some *ish to say...”

And here it begins….and I have no idea where to start or where all my bright ideas went…

What I DO know is that this life is an adventure…a journey…and there are moments whether good, bad or indifferent – we stop to think – I wonder if anyone has ever experienced this (or that.)  And chances are, not just one – but millions have…

So this blog is in the words of Mary J – a chance to SHARE MY WORLD.…there is NO rhyme, rhythm, reason, structure or system to my blog…I’ll write when I can and won’t pressure myself on the number of times.  This will be my extended version of twitter – with no limits on the number of characters.  I won’t be editing myself to make sure I’m using proper grammar – but I’ll be sure to spell-check!

Hope you take a moment every now and then to share in my world.  A world full of love, laughter, family, friends, faith, travel, experiences, work life, wife life, home life….and one chick trying to balance it all…

Until next blog….